I am a 46 year old woman with 4 children 3 grown and 1 still young. My first husband was abusive jealous and controlling I was with him for 14 years! Then one day I decided enough was enough and with the help of a solicitor I ran away to a refuge.
I then met my youngest child’s father and things were exactly the same with abuse control and jealousy. He constantly accused me of cheating and made me feel worthless and that I was lucky to have him. We both worked 6 days a week and when asking him for help he would never even take the children to the park whilst I cleaned on the weekend. Sometimes this would go into violence and he would shove me and hit me. On the occasions I had to go the doctors or hospital he would make sure he was with me so I couldn’t tell them he had done this to me. I knew he was cheating on me with secret meetings and phone calls but felt I had no where to go then one day I caught him in the act and with my family’s support I kicked him out from my home.
I have had one more relationship since my last partner and when my ex found out about my new relationship he started to make my life difficult and convinced our child to say things about my partner so I was forced to split with him. If he finds out I am going out he will bring our child home late so I can’t go out and do things to make my life difficult. He also texts me inappropriately.
Cassie has helped me get in contact with MOSAC and she has also helped me so much initially giving me strength and was very understanding, if it wasn’t for Cassie at the first conference she attended with me I feel they would have squashed me. I was then handed over to Claire.
Claire has been my Advocate from HOPE since then. She has done so much for me she is amazing she’s my hero! She has built up my confidence has always been there for me when I have needed her. She attends the core group meetings with me and the conference meetings making sure I never feel victimised and always just a phone call away. Claire always makes sure my voice is heard and gives me the power to stand up for myself.
If it wasn’t for the wonderful ladies of hope I don’t know where I would be. Thank you they are Diamonds I can never repay you for what you have done for me!